I told myself, "THIS is how you gained 40 pounds. Not feeling it."
Tuesday, November 21, 2023
Made Myself Get on the Bike
I told myself, "THIS is how you gained 40 pounds. Not feeling it."
Monday, November 20, 2023
Monday Morning of Thanksgiving Week
The cold brew is fresh.
The oatmilk is creamy.
And I am ready for a great and healthy week.
Am I cooking all manner of Southern comfort food for the holiday? Yes.
Am I intending to eat and enjoy it? Also, yes.
I'm fitting my training into my schedule like a baby fits a bottle. It's vital. I can almost feel myself (ya know the old me) back in the game. That's all a few good exercise sessions can do for a girl!
My weekly training plan is already out of the window because the forecast is calling for storms on the day I want to go to the gym so maybe I'll adjust and go later today.
Why is this important?
Well, I can only fit really a few pieces of clothing that I can exercise in. When I exercise at home, I can wear whatever I want to. Now I will have to shower and change into something that a) matches, and b) can be worn in public. lol
I most likely can't get out the door to go until around 12 or 1 pm so that also throws a bit of wrench in my "get up and get it done" plans.
But, I'm remembering to tell myself that I am capable of unearthing the real me. Just a few short years ago, I was training twice a day and LOVING every second of it.
Yoga. Walks. Hikes. The gym. Etc.
I've always loved having equipment at home, but I need that separation of space. I need to get into a building where ALL I have to do is exercise. NOTHING beats that feeling for me.
With an anxious brain, and a stressful life, exercise becomes medicine. And no one would tell a person to skip meds, so I never let anyone tell me that I workout too much or try to make me fearful of overtraining, etc.
I'm a smart woman. I didn't run 10 miles a session, or bike for hours, but moving my body was therapeutic and I am starting to remember that now and it feels great.
I'll report back on what I decide to do regarding my training tonight here on my online diary/blog.
I'm so happy that I have one reader now :)
So, whoever you are out there... I'll keep posting just for you.
Gentle Discipline: My Concept of Nudging Yourself Towards Progress
I have accomplished a lot in my life under very stressful circumstances, and the second I sat inside the circumstance, and let it consume me, I couldn't accomplish a single thing.
Gentle Discipline Approach
- Great a night time routine. I believe this will be the key to having better days.
- Make my room as inviting as possible at night to encourage sleep. My sleep hygiene is my first focus.
- Recite affirming statements three times a day. I am not a big affirmations person when the affirmations feel completely out of place, but if they are honoring, they can be very inspiring.
- Keep first things first, cardio and exercise when I first get up before doing anything else in the house. My mind starts to race with anxious thoughts of everything that needs to be done, so I can eliminate that by working out right after I have my array of morning caffeine options.
- Add a source of movement at night. Yoga. Light pilates. Dance. A slow treadmill walk at a very low speed. This is a disciplined action that is necessary. I can sit 10 paces away from my treadmill on the couch reading or surfing the internet. All things that can be done on the treadmill. It is only a matter of discipline in order to do them.
Sunday, November 19, 2023
I Have ONE Reader of this Blog And I Am Happy
To the ONE person who reads this almost daily... thank you.
I figured if only ONE person saw this and it helped them in any way, I'd keep writing.
Stay tuned because I have a lot planned for here. I'm just getting started.... ❤️
Eating Late At Night With Exhaustion
If I keep doing only what I feel, I'll be 250 pounds in a short body and have a host of ailments and need someone to take care of me.
My RIGHT Now Plan:
- Drink some coffee
- Drink some water
- Have a banana
- Exercise
- Clean my house
- Plan my exercise for the week
Friday, November 17, 2023
Bike + Grocery List Making = Slow But Successful
I am really trying to work on my sleep.
NO... I don't have a lot of "time" to sleep, but I can try to have deep sleep when I do sleep.
The gym must have taken it out of me because when my body hit the bed, I could feel my muscles melt into the mattress.
This morning (after sleeping 7.25 hours!) I realized that I don't have much time before we leave for medical appointments. I stayed IN my pajamas, and got onto my bike for 30 straight steady minutes.
I made my grocery list and peddled slowly... but it was great. It reminded me of my old self. The pre-pandemic me who woke up early, did cardio and felt amazing. She's in there.
I didn't try to push myself. I wasn't attempting to feel any burn. I just wanted to show up for myself in a gentle way.
I consider this morning a true success. I will string these little wins together and before you know it, I'll be well and truly on my way back to ultimate health.
It's still early yet today. After all of our appointments, who knows? I may feel motivated to do more exercise this evening :)
Thursday, November 16, 2023
I FINALLY Went Back to the Gym And I Didn't Even Die
Yes, I deserve to spend this time on myself a few times per week.
I gave myself 60 total minutes on the floor to get my feel for the gym again. Let's remember that prior to the pandemic, I was at the gym 6-7 days a week, sometimes twice a day- for real.
I have learned recently
- done is better than perfect
- complete is better than ruminated on
- if I wait for my anxiety to go away to do things, I won't get anything done
- I deserve to take care of myself
- Doing WHATEVER it takes to get my health + fitness back is vital- no such thing as too much time or money to make it happen if I am able to budget and manage it
- Balance is a joke (I did know this), but now I truly see that if I want to squeeze my health back on my plate, some things have to go by the wayside and most importantly.. it's okay
- It's never going to be the "right" time or a "good" time to add yet another thing to do to the full day, I have to remove something else to make this happen
- reconfigure the budget to account for paying for the gym
- reallocate time to make the 3 hours each time I go (1 hour for commute and 1.25 for exercise and rest for cleaning/getting in and out/locker room)
Pros and Cons of Rejoining the Gym...
Cons About Returning To the Gym
- The distance. The gym is 25 minutes each way.
- Paying for it. It isn't too much of a con because it isn't too pricey, but if I wind up not going, it's just flushing money down the toilet.
- Anxiety. I have to watch germs I carry due to a family member's white blood cell count, and I am so heavy now. I am not comfortable in my skin (working on it).
- The time per day. I am estimating it will take me 3 hours a day when I go- to get there, train, clean, get back. I am remembering that I am worth that time.
- The people. Ugh. Body odor. Gross people staring at you. Being in the background of people's social media, etc.
- Cold / snow. With daylights saving time, I will have to modify when I go to the gym because I don't live in a well lit area. This means the gym time will take up the bulk of the day because I will have to go midday.
Pros About Returning To the Gym
- Dedicated place to have ONE focus- exercise. Being able to turn my mind off to the rest of my life and only focus on exercise will feel like a mental vacation.
- Can use the drive to listen to music or audiobooks.
- Feel a bit like myself again. I've forgotten who I am these past few years of caregiving as the pounds have piled on, I have gotten lost in the background. Going to the gym / training period was one of my top hobbies. This gets me back closer to myself.
- I'll be facing a huge fear. Fear of germs. Fear of putting my much heavier body out into the world. Fear that I can never get my true self back. I will be facing these every time I walk into a gym.
Tuesday, November 14, 2023
Redefining "Working Out" From a Gentle Perspective
It's true that I want to get back to the "old me". The woman who worked out for fun for 1.5 hours a day and did extra burpees for the hell of it.
I'm now changing my workout lens.
I'm using compassion goggles to view my fitness through for this phase of my gentle weight loss journey.
ANY movement is movement. ANY form of stretching is beneficial. ANY resistance on my body is strength training.
Examples of my new approach to working out:
- Let's replace jumping up and down (it wouldn't be kind to my joints with the 40+ pounds I gained) with gentle bike riding (stationary) + treadmill walking + nature walk
- Let's replace 60+ minutes of intermediate yoga with yin/restorative yoga- where you barely even move, but it's great for your central nervous system
- Let's replace thinking we need to workout for 60-90 minutes at a time in order for it to "count" and just set a timer on the phone/watch and do what intuitively feels good
Here's the reality
It's about the investment in myself that counts.
Monday, November 13, 2023
Trying a Gentle Approach to Weight Loss
Let me tell you a health story...
I felt like my diet was kind of okay.
The danger is that
This time around, I've wiped this site clean. I am going to be more vulnerable and honest and I am going to take a gentle approach to this weight loss.
I have a lot of thoughts in my head, and I know I can't be the only one in a predicament like this. I can't be the only woman feeling this way in mid-life. I just can't.
Here's my gentle weight loss promise to myself for this week:
- I will blog here every day my truest of feelings. No more hiding here.
- Journal what it is I truly want- I have forgotten how to ask myself that.
- Find a way to "soften" my internal dialogue. Remove all the "you should have known better" statements, and replace with, "it's okay, you're doing your best".
- Decrease streaming time. I don't use social media much, but I over watch YouTube and Netflix (or any streaming service) to avoid my own thoughts.
- Read more. I am an avid reader, but have been leaving my books unread to binge watch reality tv that I don't even care anything about.
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